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Do you seek an ANR for the same reason as me?
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low maintenance country girl, loves cuddling, kissing, cooking,
hiking, walking, chasing rainbows
Can you cook me breakfast? Give me a bath and wash my hair?
Will you love me?
Jump on the trampoline with me and push me on the swing
Lay in bed all day with me
I am a woman who knows what I want
Okay now a little about what you should be like
I love children but I prefer they not be around
Prefer you working from home, but not necessary
Do you enjoy cuddling, kissing, do you like a woman loving you?
Money, cannot go to heaven so why make more than you need
Love is much more fun
Must not be jealous
Age is simply a number
But you must be able to....
Carry me off to bed, let me hold you tight!
Open to age. race, any of them as long as we connect
I am NOT looking for a casual hookup
so if you are the man of my dreams
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Wednesday, January 4, 2012
I have been searching for an ANR for over 5 years now.
All I seem to chat with are men who want the milk there for them
Married men, attached men, men who don't have time
An ANR takes time and lots of it if you don't have time to chat then you obviously don't have time to induce
I am picky and I have never had an ANR since I want the full journey
An ANR cannot happen in my eyes without a relationship first and foremost
then you induce
I chat with the average of at least 15 men per day and the odds of them being respectful are very low
I guess I am just aggravated a bit I guess that men think its simply
just about the milk and we are suppose to do all the work for them
okay I feel better
Wednesday, January 4, 2012
Okay I understand Married men who now want ANR is wonderful, but in order for it to happen you have to tell your wife.
feel there is nothing wrong with a married guy or attached in some way
to have an ANR but if your wife or partner does not know this, you are
cheating, it may not be sex for some of you but you are still hiding
something from your partner which makes for troubles in any
If you can't find the guts to ask your partner then you don't truly want an ANR
in my eyes this is the person you love the person you are probably have I think I have heard it all "My wife would freak out"
my eyes this is the person you love the person you probably have or had
children with, the person you are spending the rest of your life with
on earth would you not share what you truly want and if you can't then
you really do not want an ANR it is simply a fantasy for you to dream
So to all you ATTACHED MALES just simply tell the truth and maybe you can have what you want
know for me if the person's profile says married and nowhere in the
profile does it say my wife knows I will NOT contact that person
In the end getting attached to an Attached Man just leads to someone getting hurt if not everyone in the triangle
JUST SAY THE TRUTH
Its that simple, if you choose to that is
protocols to induce
Wednesday, January 4, 2012
Who Can Induce Lactation: |
Every woman whose breasts are healthy and undamaged by trauma or
surgery has the potential to induce lactation and breast feed,
regardless of whether she is now, or has ever been pregnant.
This is true whether the woman has undergone partial or total
removal of her Uterus and/or Ovaries. The physical and psychological
function of the Mammary glands are completely separate from a woman's
ability to become pregnant.
As long as a woman is past the age of puberty; her Mammary glands,
Milk Ducts, Milk Sinuses, Lymphatic System, Nervous System, Brain and
Pituitary gland are healthy and intact, every woman has the ability to
successfully induce lactation and breast feed.
As long as the breasts are healthy and intact, age is also not a
deterrent. There have been cases of women past the age of 70, who have
successfully induced lactation and breast fed.
Conditioning the Nipples and Areolas:
Inducing lactation is not a race to see how fast, or how much milk
can be produced. While in some cases milk may appear within days, the
Nipples and Areolas are not ready for breast feeding.
During the last four to five months of pregnancy, the skin of the
Nipples and Areolas grow thicker, making uninterrupted nursing sessions
possible without pain. Trying to induce lactation too rapidly will
cause chapping, chaffing, and sometimes cracking of the Nipples.
While natural hormones produced by the body during pregnancy cause
the skin of the Nipples and Areolas to grow thicker, a woman inducing
lactation or relactating does not have this advantage. When inducing
lactation or relactating, you must take the time to condition the skin
of your Nipples and Areolas.
Preparing the Nipples and Areolas for breast feeding is best done by
physical stimulation of the skin, either by hand massage or suckling.
Breast pumps in most cases do not provide the necessary stimulation to
condition the skin for suckling.
There is no set schedule or time frame for conditioning Nipples and
Areolas. Begin conditioning your Nipples and Areolas by suckling and/or
massage for only a few minutes, once or twice each day. Then increase
the duration and frequency of suckling and/or massage as your comfort
Continue increasing both the duration and frequency of your
stimulation sessions until you are able to comfortably breast feed or
massage for an uninterrupted session of twenty to thirty minutes, for as
many sessions per day as you wish.
As the Nipples and Areolas become more conditioned to continual
suckling, small bumps around the surface of the Areola will become more
prominent. These small bumps are Montgomery glands, and provide an
essential oil to help lubricate and protect the Nipples and Areolas
Induced Lactation Vs Natal Lactation:
With the exception of colostrum, how the female body produces milk,
and the composition of the milk when inducing lactation is exactly the
same as natal lactation.
Colostrum is normally produced for a few days before and a few days
after the birth of a child; however, when inducing lactation, a woman
may produce a very small amount of colostrum just before her milk comes
in, or she may produce no colostrum at all.
Usually during the fourth or fifth month of pregnancy, development
of the fetus in the womb stimulates the Mammary glands to begin milk
production. During this period before birth, the breasts grow larger,
blood veins in the breasts become more prominent, and the skin of the
Nipples and Areolas become noticeably thicker and darker.
Because there is no fetus in the womb, when inducing lactation or
relactating, milk producing hormones and physical development of the
breasts must be triggered by physical stimulation of the breasts,
Nipples and Areolas. Even though milk may appear sooner, physical
conditioning of the breasts, Nipples and Areolas in preparation for
continual breast feeding may take weeks or longer.
Once milk comes in and breast feeding begins: how milk is produced,
and how the breast is suckled is exactly the same whether milk is the
result of pregnancy, or the result of having been induced.
Also care and maintenance of the breasts is the same. If maladies
should occur such as sore or cracked Nipples, mastitis or infections,
prevention and treatment is the same, whether milk has been induced or
is the result of pregnancy.
Note: Web sites
provide excellent advice and information as to the care and
maintenance of the breasts. However, these groups are devoted to child
breast feeding, and it is inappropriate to ask questions about adult
breast feeding. These groups share their advice and knowledge willingly:
please respect the principles of their organizations.
While the physical phenomena of lactation and breast feeding is the
same, there can be psychological differences between natal lactation
and inducing lactation. Breast feeding is a basic physical and
psychological female instinct, and in some rare cases, a woman may find
she can only letdown for her own baby.
When this occurs with inducing lactation for the purpose of adult
breast feeding, a woman may find she has to reconsider social, and
sometimes religious values she was taught as a child. When attempting to
teach children social and moral values, it is not uncommon to create
psychological roadblocks to what one day may become a normal adult
How The Female Body Makes Milk:
When the Nipple alone is stimulated or suckled, a woman will become
aroused. But when both her Nipple and Milk Sinuses are stimulated or
suckled, her body will respond by producing milk. When inducing
lactation, it is important to stimulate both the nerves in the Nipple,
and the nerves in the Milk Sinuses simultaneously.
When both the nerves in the Nipple and the nerves in the Milk
Sinuses are stimulated simultaneously, signals are sent to the Brain in
the form of minute electrical impulses, via the Nervous System. The
Brain processes the signals being sent by the Nipple and Milk Sinuses,
and determines the signals are being caused by suckling.
The Brain then responds by lowering production of the chemical
neurotransmitter Dopamine, which is being supplied/secreted to the
Pituitary gland by the Brain. Normal levels of Dopamine at the Pituitary
gland inhibits production of the milk producing hormones, Oxytocin and
Reducing the level of Dopamine at the Pituitary gland, increases the
level of Oxytocin and Prolactin in the bloodstream. Higher levels of
Oxytocin and Prolactin in the bloodstream saturate both the Milk Ducts
and Mammary glands in preparation for breast feeding.
What is commonly called the "Mammary Gland", consists of up to four
thousand individual milk producing cells/glands, each with an attached
Alveoli sac. These four thousand individual milk producing cells/glands
are contained in approximately forty sacs arranged around the Nipple
in the shape of a rosette.
When stimulated by Prolactin, milk is synthesized in the milk
producing cell and stored in the Alveoli sac. The individual milk
producing cell, with attached Alveoli sac, is also known as a Mammary
Milk Ducts are an interconnecting network of ducts connecting the
individual milk producing cells, to the Milk Sinuses located slightly
behind the Nipple and beneath the Areola.
The individual Milk Sinus is a bulb shaped distention of the Milk
Duct slightly behind the Nipple. When compressed by hand or suckling,
milk is forced from the Milk Sinus, outward through the tip of the
Nipple. When released, the milk sinus refills automatically. When
correctly latched and suckled, milk is pumped from the breast by the
Milk Sinuses, rather than being sucked from the breast by the mouth.
Milk Sinuses in each Nipple can number from twelve to twenty four;
however, most commonly numbering from fifteen to eighteen. When
expressing by hand, normally only six or less Milk Sinuses/Ducts will
When suckling begins, Oxytocin and Prolactin levels rise in the
bloodstream, and milk begins to be synthesized in the milk producing
cells. Then based on nerve impulses from the Nipples and Milk Sinuses,
often combined with visual and auditory input from the eyes and ears,
the Brain determines the need/demand for milk.
When the Brain processes the sensory input as being, not just a
desire for milk, but a genuine need/demand for milk such as hunger, the
Brain will then stimulate the milk producing cells, via the Nervous
System, to letdown and start milk flow.
As long as the breast is being suckled and the demand for milk
remains, the Mammary glands will continue producing milk through
multiple letdowns. When there is no longer a need/demand for milk, and
the breast is being suckled for comfort or arousal, the Brain will stop
stimulating the milk producing cells, and milk flow will stop even
though suckling continues.
Inducing Lactation Vs Relactation:
Induced lactation refers to a woman who is inducing her milk for the
very first time, without ever having been pregnant or having breast
fed. When inducing lactation for the very first time, minor changes
must occur in the walls of the milk producing cells before the gland
can synthesize milk.
Relactation refers to a woman who has lactated at least once in the
past and is inducing her milk again. When a woman has lactated at least
once, her Mammary glands remain mature and ready to produce milk for
as long as her breast remain healthy. It takes a little longer to
induce lactation for the first time than it does to relactate.
Even though it is technically incorrect, in conversation relactating is most often referred to as inducing lactation.
Latching and Suckling:
The difference between sexual arousal and producing milk is often in
how the nursing partner latches and suckles. If the nursing partner
does not take enough of the Nipple and Areola into his or her mouth,
sexual arousal will usually result.
To create correct stimulation when inducing lactation, both the
Nipple and Areola must be suckled into a teat shape by the nursing
partner. When correctly suckled into a teat shape, the nursing partner
can stimulate the Nipple, and compress the Milk Sinuses simultaneously
with his or her tongue.
A woman can usually tell if her nursing partner is latched correctly
by how she feels. When her nursing partner has not correctly formed
the teat and is suckling mostly on the Nipple, she will feel more
aroused. When latch is correct, even though slightly aroused, the woman
will feel more tranquil or euphoric.
Because their mouths are exactly the right size and shape, infants
are experts at latching and suckling. When an infant latches, it will
seal its lips against the mother's breast, then suck her Nipple and
Areola into the shape of a teat. Then using a combination of tongue and
gums, it will stimulate the Nipple, and spray milk into it's mouth by
compressing the Milk Sinuses.
The adult mouth being bigger, the formed teat tends to be thicker
and more oval shaped, making it more difficult to master compressing
the Milk Sinuses with the tongue. And because every woman's Nipples and
Areolas are different, as well as every adult mouth is different,
there is no "one size fits all" technique for adult latching.
An individual nursing partner's latching technique may require a
little experimentation and practice to perfect. As a starting point, the
nursing partner can form his or her lips into approximately a one inch
circle, then suckle the Nipple and Areola into the mouth, taking time
to form a well shaped teat.
A good teat shape is approximately one inch, or less in diameter,
and approximately one and one half inches long. However, size and shape
of the teat will depend not only on the size and shape of the Nipple
and Areola, but also the firmness of the breast. The softer, more
pliable breast of a woman who has breast fed in the past is easier to
form into a teat, where as the breast of a woman who is lactating for
the first time is often more firm, and may not be as easy to form into a
Suckling is best done by a rhythmic undulating motion of the tongue
pressing the Nipple and Milk Sinuses firmly but gently against the roof
of the mouth, while sucking to keep the lips sealed against the
When latching and suckling, concern must also be given to the teeth
and oral hygiene of the nursing partner. If the nursing partner's teeth
are sharp and jagged, chaffing or cutting of the Nipple may occur.
Also poor oral hygiene can encourage bacteria growth in the adult
mouth, which in turn may lead to Mastitis or infection of the Nipple.
Good oral hygiene is particularly critical in the case of pierced
The Psychology of Demand:
When inducing lactation, often the first fluid to appear at the
Nipple is clear. When the milk turns white, or white with an opaque
bluish tint, you have successfully induced lactation. Even if it is only
drops, when white milk appears, the mammary glands are functioning as
Induced lactation and relactation depend on correct Nipple, Areola
and Milk Sinus stimulation: increased milk supply depends on demand!
Breasts that produce only drops may be metaphorically compared to
the engine of a car at idle. The car will set at idle until the driver
needs, or demands, to go somewhere. When the driver shifts the car into
gear and presses the accelerator, the engine will roar to life and
take the driver anywhere he or she may want to go.
In the same manner, if the nursing partner is suckling for comfort
or arousal, the female body will respond by giving comfort or arousal;
however, the milk supply will remain at idle. To increase milk supply
from drops to flow, there must be a genuine need or demand, such as
Between a breast feeding woman and the person she is feeding,
whether that person is a child or an adult, there is an unseen
subconscious connection. This unseen subconscious connection enables
the woman's body to respond the needs of the person suckling.
There are times when a baby will suckle for comfort or pacification;
however, if the baby is hungry, the mother will letdown and her milk
will flow freely. It is the baby's hunger that triggers the mother's
milk flow. In the same way, the nursing partner must subconsciously
trigger the woman's letdown and milk flow.
Even when sex is part of the adult nursing relationship, the nursing
partner's initial need/demand must be milk. When trying to increase
milk production, the nursing partner must take all of the milk from the
breast, even if it is only a drop. As nursing sessions progress, one
drop becomes two, then two drops becomes four and so on.
If your nursing partner suckles without a need or demand for milk,
your subconscious will assume there is no need for milk, and respond
accordingly. Milk flow increases to meet demand, and the need, or hunger
of the nursing partner must be that demand.
Protocols for Inducing Lactation
Posted On Sep 21, 2011 06:45 PM CDT
I thought it might be a good idea to post a blog about exactly what it takes to induce lactation
reason I think this is a good idea is maybe if men see how much work it
really is for a woman, not to mention what it does to a woman
physically and emotionally!!
know there are some women out there who want to induce on their own for
whatever reason they may have, that's great I totally give them Kudos
to doing it on their own
I am not a woman who wants to go on this journey by myself, I am lucky
enough I guess to have a schedule that allows will allow me to be nursed
8 times per day. Hopefully my partners schedule will allow the same.
I guess what i am saying is to all you men who simply want milk
without giving anything in return, might want to think twice before
asking "Are you lactating?"
"Don't make someone a priority in your life when you're only an option in theirs."
This is from Stargate Libraries
How To Induce Lactation
induce lactation a woman's breasts must be stimulated, by herself
and/or her partner, for approximately 20 minutes, (10 minutes each
breast), up to 8 times each day. By far the best method of breast
stimulation is suckling by an adult partner; however, lactation may also
be induced by a combination of hand massage and nipple stimulation.
The essential hormones which cause breast milk to be produced are
secreted in to a woman's blood stream for approximately 10 minutes and
usually stay in her system for no more than 20 minutes. Suckling or
stimulating beyond 20 minutes does little good, because her hormone
level has returned to normal after that time.
If you have chosen to stimulate your breast by nursing your partner,
his ability to latch and suckle correctly is an absolute necessity.
Incorrect latch and/or suckling will prevent a woman from lactating.
Breastfeeding .com has a web page that explains correct latching and
There are also more articles in our Files that are helpful in
understanding correct latch and suckle techniques. The best method of
suckling while inducing lactation is switch nursing. Have your partner
suckle one breast for 5 minutes, then switch him to the other breast.
Repeat this process until the 20 minute session is completed.
If you choose to stimulate your breasts and nipples by hand massage
and milk expression, many women have had excellent success using the
Marmet Technique. You may use the technique as described or you may
modify it to fit your personal physique and situation. Marmet Technique
Later in the process of inducing lactation, you may want to
incorporate breast pumping into your hand stimulation session; however,
do not use a breast pump until you have enough milk to pump. Even the
best breast pumps give poor stimulation and most often fail to drain
the breast completely. When stimulating and expressing by hand, you
must be sure to express all of your milk at each session. Milk
production will only increase when your mammary glands have used all of
the essential milk producing hormones. If you stop stimulating your
breasts and nipples before your hormone levels have returned to normal,
you milk production will not increase.
Eight, 20 minute stimulation sessions is the optimum method for
inducing lactation because it more closely mimics neonatal nursing by an
infant. The way milk is made in a woman's breast is the same whether
she is lactating as a result of pregnancy or induced lactation.
Unfortunately many women find it difficult to stick to such a ridged
schedule because of work schedules, social commitments, etc. If you are
inducing lactation to produce enough milk to breast feed a newborn
infant, it is necessary to stick to eight, 20 minute sessions each day;
however, most women are inducing for the purpose of adult nursing.
Where adult nursing is concerned, the quality of the relationship is
more important than the quantity of milk. This makes it possible for a
woman to induce lactation to a lower level of milk production and still
enjoy all of the benefits of lactation and adult nursing. If you are
inducing to nurse an adult partner, you may reduce the number of
sessions per day. A woman can induce lactation with as few as four, 20
minute stimulation sessions each day; however, the more sessions you
are able to perform, the faster and better your results will be.
Scheduling your sessions: you should try to space your sessions as
evenly as possible throughout the day, beginning with a session at 2:00
a.m. If you normally go to bed at 10:00 p.m., between 2:00 and 3:00
a.m., the levels of milk producing hormones in your system are highest
for the day. The 2:00 a.m. hand stimulation or nursing session is very
important to your success. You should be able to schedule your second
session after you awaken and before you start your day. Performing this
sessions while taking a warm shower will help with stimulation and the
let-down reflex. A shower is also an excellent way to start your day.
If possible, schedule your next session for noon. Often when a woman is
working, she can find 20 minutes at lunch time to hand stimulate her
breasts and nipples. At the end of the day, in early evening, (usually
around 6:00 p.m.), you should be able to stimulate or nurse again. At
10:00 p.m. in the evening is the best time to nurse your partner; it's
at the end of the day and both of you are in bed beginning to relax. If
you don't have a partner, this is still a good time to relax while you
hand massage. As you can see, without drastically altering your daily
routine, you are able to incorporate 4 or 5 hand stimulation and/or
nursing sessions each day. It is essential that you be consistent,
perform the same routine at the same time every day. Key factors for
inducing lactation are consistency, self-discipline, and dedication.
Inducing lactation and adult nursing are long term experiences and must
become a priority in your life.
Expressing your milk and breast pumping. If you already have a breast
pump, you may incorporate it into your 20 minute stimulation sessions;
however, breast pumps provide very poor stimulation and should not be
used in place of hand massage or suckling. If possible you may pump one
breast while hand massaging the other; however, you must still complete
10 minutes of hand stimulation on each breast Do not try to short cut
your efforts to induce lactation with a breast pump. If you are using a
breast pump to express milk from your breasts, after the pump appears
to have drained the breast; you must continue expressing your milk by
hand. Even the best pumps will not completely drain the breast. Your
milk supply will not increase unless the breast is *completely* drained
at each session. Draining the breast at each session is essential to
The real secret behind inducing lactation is your mental and emotional
state. During your 20 minute stimulation session, you must not let
your thoughts wander; you must focus solely on inducing lactation. You
may not think about your shopping list or what you will be doing later;
you must relax and focus on letting-down and making milk. Even when a
woman's milk producing hormone level is high and she experiences the
let-down reflex, a subconscious mental block can still prevent
lactation. You must learn to let go of your inhibitions about lactation
and adult nursing and let yourself drift in to a state of euphoric
tranquility that signals the onset of lactation. Your mental and
emotional state is equal to, and perhaps more important than, your
physical techniques of inducing lactation. Let go and let your body
produce breast milk.
searching for forever it seems
Wednesday, January 4, 2012
I have been searching it seems forever for an ANR.
An ANR is something I read about in 2001 when I read Stargate libraries for the first time.
I read one paragraph just simply seemed to consume me, it stated that
if a woman nurses her soul mate they would enter into a state of bliss
where the woman could feel her lovers feelings and know if he needed
I was captivated by one persons view on ANR, it's all I needed.
I know there are other people who view an ANR the same way as I do, it
just seems as though most people view it as sexual fetish for the milk.
I am just tired of waiting
I will be patient and I will not settle for anything less than what I want
and that is a respectful ANR from beginning to infinity......
"I Wish You Were In My Bed Tonight"
I can still dream
The Four Agreements
Wednesday, January 4, 2012
The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz
BE IMPECCABLE WITH YOUR WORD
with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the word to
speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of
your word in the direction of truth and love.
DON'T TAKE ANYTHING PERSONALLY
others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection
of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the
opinions and actions of others, you won't be the victim of needless
DON'T MAKE ASSUMPTIONS
the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want.
Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid
misunderstandings, sadness, and drama. With just this one agreement,
you can completely transform your life.
ALWAYS DO YOUR BEST
best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different
when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance,
simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgement, self-abuse, and
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