Evening and welcome .  A few of you know me but most of you don't .  I've had a keen interest in being Dominant since the age of 14 .  I've also studied most every aspect of it for over 35 years .  Four years ago, I decided to start training Newbies and curious women in the ART of becoming submissive .  Since that time, I've had the honor of training seven young women into each aspect of being submissive onto a Dom .  The question was asked of my a few days ago, " Is it nessary to provide training to a Newbie or a woman curious about what BDSM and Bondage is all about" ?   A very good question indeed !  This question was asked of me by a wonderful young lady who I'll be training within two weeks .  This was my reply to her .

My dear Becca, I believe it is nessary and even a very helpful tool in learning the ways without feeling either silly about asking nor being worried about your safty knowing your being trained by a "Gentleman Dominant" .  There are standards that must be used to ensure a safe, Sane, and Consensual experiance for you and other subs .  Words like TRUST and RESPECT are thrown about but are they really taken seriously by the Dom who your about to trust with your care during a session ?  Is he just feeding her a line and has no intention of doing things right like establishing a "Safe Word" before ANY activties are to begin ?  Does he find out about any limits you may have ?  And does he truly respect your rights to enjoy the session your about to commit to with him ?  All very valid questions .  On average, it takes a certain amount of time spent in conversation to know just exactly she's looking to learn and accomplish within a session .  Does he even know what "aftercare is all about ?  Again Becca has a very valid point !  my advice to any woman who is considering being taught BDSM and Bondage has the right to ask questions of her choosing .  And if a potential Dom is hesitant to answer any question or avoids a pointed question, consider your options ladies .  The point of having several conversations or meetings is to know without a doubt that your Safe with this Dominant or Dominatrix .  It's been said that the submissive is the one TRULY in charge of any session by her rights to void anything she does'nt want to do or partisipate in, PERIOD !  Unfortunately some Doms or Dommes place their needs before the subs who've entrusted their care and safty to them . 

In closing this evening, may I suggest that you do a thourogh examination of just who your getting involved with .  ASK QUESTION, lots of them and ask them a second or third time noting their answers and views on your concerns .  Take your time, do your homework properly, and be very careful with your choice .  The proper Dominant or Dominatrix will shurly understand and welcome your questions at anytime .  That is how trust is built between the both of you .  And if there's the slighest of doubt in your mind about a potential Dom or Domme, error on the side of caution please and avoid making any mistakes you'd regret later on .

Being a submissive can truly be a wonderful experiance and one you'll always be happy about ! 

And who knows, you just might find Mr. Right !!!  Best of luck and be careful out there .  If you have any questions or inquiries, you can message me at most anytime here on SexyAds .  Thank you .

Yep. here I am to send you greetings for Cupids Offical 15 minutes of fame !   The day where the little shithead shoot you in the ass with a tiny arrow and we're suppose to go around all horny for the better part of 24 hours .  Then mysteriously us men go back to just being heartless pigs for the next 364 days .  Tina Turner once sang, " What's love got to do with it"  and she hit it right on the head, just look at what Ike done for her ?  It should have been "What's LUST got to do with it !   C'mon now and lets face it, most of us guys a real Horndawgs, right ?  A guy should bring his lady flowers at least once a month, not once a year and then have to be reminded about it by The FTD florist on the telly .  Gee, and we wonder why she goes Ape Shit when Fabio comes on the T.V. and she getts all horny over his big hairless chest .  And really now guys...you'd probably get laid much more if you'd show her more attention than you do to ESPN !!!   I love the new commercial where the REALLY HAWT BABYGIRL in the black teddy has to compete with the gawdDamned Cell phone .  Let me see now...HAWT NYMPH all horny with a black teddy OR  a stupid assed cell phone texting ??? HMMM...I'd be slammin the Babe in the black teddy and fuck the phone !!!  Hell, flush the phone down the toilet and lets get down to dessert Brothers !!!   I can just hear the sound of bedsprings now !  LMAO .  

So I'd like to close with some advice to all men out there...GET A CLUE  SEX IS WAY BETTER THAN MOST ANYTHING ELSE YOU"D USUALLY BE DOING RIGHT NOW .  And to the Ladies...Have a Very Happy Valentines day !!!  May it be everything you'd hope it to be for you !   Peace and out,

Bigfella44 from Wauseon, Ohio

When anyone is AWOL for over 6 months I'm sure I've missed a great dael of things .  And this is not like picking it up again and being able to get in touch, say "WASSUP" to them and being back in the LOOP !  

For those of you who know me, I'm a Dominant who is a big gentle giant and likes to show young ladies the way around as a sub trainee .  That sure has not changed !  To be very honest and frank with ya'll,  members are not real good at answering back a message that you'd leave them, especially submissive ladies .  I've put out close to 35 messages to subs with not one return message !  Makes me wonder, does'nt it !   And now I'm into AB/DL and would like to find a special play partner to explore it more deeply .  Sure, It's not for everyone but I'm quite sure that some lady might be into it on here .  I'm in the mood to get fired up again and start to smile more about life for the last 8 months I've been to hell and now I've made the return trip back to sanity !!!   FEELS GREAT !!!   Dropme a line and if nothing just say Hi Biggie...WASSUP fella !!!!    Huggs,

bigfella44

Nice to be back and I'm back, better than ever !   Yea, I'm still a Dominant and yea, I'm still into training young ladies or for that matter any ladies the time honored art of Bondage/BDSM .  I've found a few new play partners and am doing quite well these days .  Nothing like some spirited subbie training to get a man back on track !  As unusual as it may seem, one of my new subbies is a AB/DL certified diaper wearing sub who has showed me some new twist to the old Bondage thing .  Being a member of FetLife.com for four years now, I've always known it was out there but never thought it would find me in the person of this little diaper wearing dynamo !  As the old song goes.." ya just roll with it baby"  and I guess I have . 

A special hello goes out to my bestest friend on sexyads...The one and only Wicked Chick !!!  Missed talking with you my Sweet Thang !   I'll be on alot more from now on !!!   Huggs and peace friends,

bigfella44

I know I have'nt been too active lately due to several deaths in my family and I myself am now going to take a small sabatical myself .  After three abnormal EKG test this last week, I'm going into the hospital for some surgery to fix some partially blocked arteries and some work on my left ventrical to correct  a malfunction .  I know, kinda sounds like taking your car to the shop for some adjustments and that's how I choose to view this .  AIN'T SKARED !!!   What the hell...it's just a minor glitch in the road of life, correct ???  So have a nice Thanksgiving, enjoy all the Turky you desire to and have a belt for me .  I'll be back around the Christmas season to say Hi to ya'll and wish you a Merry Christmas !!!   Keep the Faith Brothers and Sisters, see ya later, Peace and Out,

bigfella44 from Toledo, Ohio