GOT EPOXY???


I was asked by someone  How do I know a strong love affair with a fantasy date will not develop and compromise the stability of my marriage?

This was my answer to him:

The history and love that we have is what stabilizes our commitment to one another. The sex is just that, sex. No one else will every have our souls, our love, our bond. We call it "Epoxy Love" because kept separate, each can never be at it's best, yet combined they are a strong force of permanent bond. We, as human beings are not innately programmed to be monogamous creatures. It is going against our human nature. We have been taught that it is what we should be, and what we should do by the morality interference, and doing such more people are hurt by someone else simply doing what is their human nature, spreading their seed to as many as possible. People can resist, yet usually end up morbidly unhappy or eventually succumb to their desires. My Husband and I have no secrects from one another. There is no more wondering if the other is cheating. Since we began to swing, my  we've both lost weight, taken a better interest in our physical fitness, had sex together alone more often than ever! No one can ever do me better than him and vice versa...We've got the head start together that can not be surpassed by any fantasy.We know our reality is better than any fantasy. Our lifestyle is many people's ultimate fantasy, yet they dont have the foundation to live it on. We are living it all out together in harmony and love. Everyday we both feel like we live in a parallel universe of complete joy. We rededicated our marriage commitment last year, and this is what we promised one another: Love me without fear, Trust me without questioning, Need me without demanding, want me without restrictions, Accept me without change, Desire me without inhibitions.

Here is an excerpt from a blog of one of my friends who wife just recently left him.


A soul that completes your own. A person that when they are next to you, you feel complete, happy, serine. What happens to someone when one or the other decides to leave? Emptiness, sorrow, a feeling of having lost a part of yourself along with this other person. How do you get over something like that? Is there really a day that comes when you just stop loving them? Putting on a mask for the world, so you can do what you need to do, perhaps is the best you can manage. They are in your dreams, in your thoughts, and still very much a part of your life emotionally.
When you find that certain someone, that makes you feel alive for the first time. Feel truly loved and adored for all that you are, and you return those feelings to the one you love. What can go wrong with a situation like that? Some might say, pride, greed, unfaithfulness can disrupt those things, but if you love someone so much, why would you do anything to hurt their feelings.

We are all human, is the answer, with your many faults. We get caught up in our lives, our jobs, our projects, our wants and desires. Sometimes some of those situations don't exactly mix with our soul mates, and friction is created. How you deal with that friction is where the key lies. Taking the time to talk, to do things together, to accept each other for who they are. You can only change yourself, you can't change anyone else.

The friction takes place, and continues for some time, it puts strain on both sides of the relationship, resentment builds if not talked about, resentment builds bitterness, and bitterness breeds hate. So if things are left  not dealt with, two people who love each other very much, end up hating each other any number of reasons that could have been diffused.

Lissten to your heart and not to others on what you should do.

If you find yourself being upset at your other half, take the time to evaluate it. Is it really worth fighting about? Is it really that big of a deal in the big scheme of things? How would you feel if this argument was the last thing you two ever said to each other?

OK...thats the end of  the excerpt of his blog..


So, In summary,  A strong love affair with a fantasy date, or other lover will not only NOT EVER happen to compromise the properties that stabilize the security of my marriage because we have mastered emotionally and logically the FACT that Sex can be just Sex, a basic and primal urge.  Also, We've made it through all that friction, wasnt easy at first, but we've gotten better at it, and even better the more we had to deal with it. We know there will always be things that will come up, but never from deceit. Basically we decided that nothing we have been through or ever will go through will ever tear us apart. We agree that we'd rather have the other one around than to ever be without! In other words there is no "strange", extra or additional "sextracirricular" that will make us crumble.

The reply I received from the person who asked me the initial question was as follows:

"We'll that sounds like a never ending partnership..
What attracts me most is romance interwoven in the evolved lucid intuitive capacities of a logical woman.
You've mastered the logic, and I'm sure that there is a bond between you and your life partner that results in favorable correspondence..
My heart races for a connection that stops the clocks..
I envy you"

His response delightfully concluded that his inquisition had been satisfied.