1) Do not try to convince me that you are young enough or old enough for me. –To the older men: Rather than say “I am 50 years young” just simply say “I am 50”… I cannot stand the phrase “[…] years young.” –To the younger men: Do not tell me “I am a very mature 29.” If you are mature, then you do not need to tell me. As the saying goes, “the proof is in the pudding,” and your personality should attest to your maturity.

2) Rather than trying to describe yourself, send me a pic of your face instead. I never request pics of your genitals because, well let’s be perfectly honest here, if there is no interest in your face then the rest is moot. I do not need to hear about how “fit” or “good-looking” you claim to be. First of all, looks are subjective, and secondly, I am not a shallow or superficial person. A few of my main interests in men are; personality, sense of humor, intellect, maturity, compassion/empathy, and thoughtfulness. As for your looks, as long as you are clean and well groomed, that is all I ask.

3) I have no interest in and no time for cyber sex, phone sex, or erotica, so please refrain from attempting to solicit any of those from me.

4) Don’t ask me for a nude pic of myself. I have legitimate reasons for not wanting pics like that posted already and if that is the only thing that interests you then there is no point in continuing with communication. I want to physically meet men, not exchange pics.

5) Want to impress me and/or attract my attention? The best way to do that is to show me that you possess more of a vocabulary than just “nice tits” or “I wanna […] you.” Come on guys!  I need mental stimulation as much as I need physical stimulation!!

I had my first child when I was in my 20's, and he is now in his 20's.  Although I do like young men, I will never meet nor have sex with a man who is closer in age to my son than to me.  This is not a reflection on you but rather a personal preference and a comfort level that is not up for negotiation.  I would never be expected to have a sexual attraction to a contemporary of my son's during his infancy or childhood so please do not expect me to have one simply because that contemporary is now in his adulthood.  I am still old enough to be your mother!!  My comfort level is + or - 10 years of my own age.

I often receive messages from married or otherwise attached men.  Comments are not objectionable, however I must inform everyone that I will never meet with a married/attached man and please do not ask me or try to change my mind.  It is not that I am judging you, but that I have difficulty finding spare time to meet people with my own hectic schedule.  That having benn said, I am vehemently opposed to and disapprove of cheating, but I also understand that some married/attached men are part of a swinging couple and are not necessarily cheating.  Also, on another level, if I were to meet someone with whom "more than sex" became mutually desireable, it is quite obvious that it would not be feasible with a man who is already attached.  I am not opposed to the "no strings attached" or "friends with benefits" scenario, but to completely eliminate the possibility of anything more kinda destroys the fantasy.  Ya know?  It is always nice to know that there is a possibility for options lurking somewhere in the background.