First and foremost - I'm NOT interested in three things so if you fit either of these categories please don't waste my time or yours:

1) If you are married or attached - I don't fit the "second best" slot very well .. I want to be #1. I already don't trust you, so don't bother; and

2) If you live more than an hour away - I want something real not a computer make believe relationship.

3) If you are ONLY looking for a one time sex hookup im NOT interested

I am not confused and know EXACTLY what I want and need. I don't play games and I don't want to be toyed with either. I am NOT a puppet !!! I am real and you should be too, or don't bother. I am quite patient, but have no time for nonsense and games.

If you send me an email and its trash .. that's where it's gonna end up !!! Please take the time to read this profile BEFORE you contact me and please be sure you understand it. Feel free to ask any questions. I'd be happy to clarify anything that may confuse you.

Please be between 40 and 50 - im really not into little boys who are 20 .. really gimme a break !!! Go to a club and get laid with someone your own age.

I am not confused and know EXACTLY what I want and need. I don't play games and hope you don't either.

I cant stand men who give up so easily - but its okay that way I know exactly what you wanted and when you don't get that - you just drop the ball - best to know sooner rather than later !!

NO MARRIED MEN OR ATTACHED ONES!! PLEASE BE LOCAL I DO NOT AND I REPEAT I DO NOT WANT PHONE SEX OR EROTIC CHAT I'M LOOKING FOR SOMETHING REAL !!

I'm NOT into bi-sexual or bi-curious men either !!!

I'm NOT looking for a one night stand, I'm NOT into drama or craziness of any kind - I don't like arguments nor petty BS - it's truly not worth my time or energy .. please feel the same or don't waste my time --

55 year young widow.. loves music (rock and metal), live bands, computers, cooking, reading, swimming, going out, and staying home cuddling with my man, some candles, wine, music, and a good movie !

If you are tired of women playing head games and seek someone real, upfront and brutally honest, then we need to talk !!

I'm also a BBW (big beautiful woman) so if that's a problem I fully understand ........we ALL have our preferences I surely have mine ! I'm quite picky and will not hook up with you just because ... Please be a white heterosexual male preferably in your 40's - BHM's (big handsome man) are welcome to respond .. I love a teddy bear to cuddle with.

Love the bad boy type too !! Actually the bad boy type with the sensitive male hidden deep inside really turns me on Bad boy outside - Sensitive caring man on the inside ..... There are however exceptions to every rule, but white and heterosexual is a must ... sorry I don't ever want to find out again three weeks down the road you are into men !!

If the chemistry is there, it will work and if not, then not !!! Sex is VERY important to me but I also want more than "just" sex ! I need passion as well. Someone caring and understanding. If you aren't looking for the same you are not for me .. simple. If you JUST want sex go find a hooker or a whore if that's what you prefer !

Also, if you are married, DONT bother either. Been there .. done that ... not doing it again. It doesn't work for me. I hate time constraints.

I'm looking for someone LOCAL to my area. I live in the Hudson Valley, in Dutchess County in Upstate New York. You are just wasting my time and yours if you live a gazillion miles away because I'm NOT looking to have sex with someone 300 miles away ONCE! I'm NOT into cybersex or phone sex or camming either... how ridiculous is THAT ????

My Ideal Person: what is with all the married and attached men on this site. ?? it's actually astonishing ... if you are that unhappy at home you need to end what you got and move on ... not go jump in another woman's bed ... that is NOT the answer !! all i hear is about how your girlfriend or wife doesn't want sex and how she doesn't understand you - then why are you still there ??? if your intimacy is gone that's a problem that most times can NOT be fixed - people stay together for the wrong reasons - you should be with someone who makes you happy in all ways not just for sex !!! i agree sex is an IMPORTANT part of a relationship and lots of times it gets put on the back burner .. it shouldn't - its important and its keeps the relationship where it should be ... an it shouldn't be treated as a "chore"...just my opinion I don't need nor want any feedback on that opinion !