First some backgroun for those who may wonder about some of my methods for traimimg .  "Lynn" and I are very good friends still till this day !  She answered my ad for a submissive in need of training 13 months ago .  After the 3 required meetings in public, I did'nt think she was ready so we had several more .  Lynn was ready by Febuary of 2009 and we had our first session which was akward for her I believe .  Early sessions are slow at first but gain momentum the more a sub learns about herself .  By late spring, she was ready for what I considered a good session .  This is a good starting point so I'll continue from here...

The night before I called her to give her instructions and discuss the session plans .  After all was in agreement I told her good night and got some sleep .  The next morning, I got my selection of toys all packed into 3 tool boxes and left to go to her apartment .  Dressed like the Maytag repairman, I entered her building, knocked at her door and much to my suprise there she was in a beautiful silk japaneese robe, tied at the waist by a big black sash .  "appliance repair ma'am" I said .  "Come in, I've been expecting you Sir" !!!   I was no sooner in the door and I asked where the repair item was . She said it was in the bedroom .  I replied that it was a strange place for a major appliance and she said that it was her electric blanket and that it was HOT !   Yea...I'd say !   We closed the door and as she droped her robe to the floor, my eyes about fell out .  She was dressed in a tight black leather corset, black knee high goth boots, a black garter belt with sheer black nylons, and some sheer split crotch panties .  Her huge 44 dd breast poured over the top of the half bra top corset and said to me...take me bigfella !!!   "Assume the position " I told her and true to form she turned her back to me and put her wrist together .  After cuffing her wrist I instructed her to lay on the bed face down and then put her ankle and thigh cuffs on her .  I lubed up a small butt plug and slowly inserted it into her tender hole while she moaned softly .  "Over girl" I instructed her and she rolled over onto her back .  I inserted a 8 inch vibretor into her pussy and turned it on slow .  "Anything you wish to say before I gag you my dear" and she said "No Sir".  With that, I found a pair of her silk panties, stuffed them into her mouth and duct taped it shut .  The safe sign was 2 snaps of her finger and I'd cease all activity till I ungaged her to find out the problem .  I stood her up and started to munch and suck her tits till she orgasmed .  "Lynn" you see is a clasic pain slut and any sort of painful stimulus makes her orgasm !  Wow...lucky me !!!   After a while I laid her on the bed, got my riding crop out and gave her a good tit spanking .  MMMPPPFFF... did'nt know what she said but she sure was enjoying it .  Before I rolled her onto her stomach, I removed her gag and replaced it with a penis gag with a breather hole .  I straped it on quite tightly and turned her over .  I then paddled her ass with the crop, THACK...THACK...THACK till she orgasmed again .   I wanted to try my new lexan paddle but after a few wacks, she gave the safe signal .  Turns out the paddle did'nt agree with her butt so I regaged her and tried a rubber coated paddle .  After a while, I stoped the paddling and thought it was time to give her pussy a good workout .  I blindfolded her, secured the vibrator and butt plug, turned the vibrator on high, and left her to orgasm .  I got a cup of coffee, came back, and found her trying to scream thru her gag while in a hard orgasm .  I watched her for a good 20 minutes have more mind blowing orgasms and roll around on her bed in sheer extacy !   "Gawd I hate to break this up but I have a few more things planed for you Lynn" .  "MMMMPPPPTTTTTFFF"  was all she said !  I attached 2 spreader bars, one to her ankle cuffs and one to her thigh cuffs so that she was spread wide open, and straped on a huge 12 inch vibrating dildo !  "O.K. sugar, big Daddy's going to give it to you now hunny" .  With that I slowly slid the lubed rubber cock into her waiting pussy .   OMG...she went off like a roman candle !!!  One orgasm on top of another, 5 in total !!!   "Had enough Babygirl" I asked her ? MMMPPPPFFFTT ???   I ungaged her and she said I surrender BigDaddy !  So I uncuffer her, ungaged her, removed her blindfold, and hugged her long and hard for about 15 minutes .  GAWD...what a session she had !  

After we got dressed, I spent another 90 minutes there because I believe in "aftercare" for my trainees .  We had a few cups of coffee, talked about the session, and after a goodbye hugg, we parted company for the afternoon .

I'm very proud to share this with all of you because this is how a good session should go .  I'm proud of my work as a trainer and am happy in the knowledge that my trainees are always safe when with me...always !!!

Your friend
bigfella44 from Toledo. Ohio

Good night !

Seeing that I resently retired, I thought I'd have a lot of time to sleep in and do the things that I wanted to do .  I retired 10 years before most folks but my jobs have always been very physical and done outdoors in the elements . The 15 years as a fireman and EMT were the easiest with the last 10 years being a bitch as a maintance specialist and supervisor .  Yes, I've been electracuted, burned, fell from great heights and other suck delights !!!  LMAO  

I rewarded myself with 3 things .  My first computer, joining a fetish community, and belonging to Sexyads !  Great choices huh ?  The reason I joined SA is that there are so many wonderful ladies on here and some speak my language !  And I've made some guy friends too who have given me the benifit of their experiances !   Tommrow evening, I'm going to repost my blog on my favorite submissive trainee and one of our "sessions" .  I now feel comfortable with sharing it with all of you again .  I look forward to some interesting comments and questions .  If you've ever been curious about trying BDSM you'll want to especially read my blog tommrow evening !

I wish you all a great day tommrow and sleep well my friends !

bigfella44 from Toledo, Ohio

It's rather unusual for me to be on SA in the morning but after a lousey night of sleep, I'm now setting at my keyboard in the mood to bang out some thoughts .  I had the pleasure of talking with a sweet young lady from Kentucky this morning in the dungeon and found her to be a breath of freas air !  Every now and then a guy needs a freash perspective and thanx to her I feel much better now . 

The biggest problem with this setup is the distance all of these wonderful women are from me .  I've had some very pretty women check out my profile but they're many miles from me .  What a bummer !   I'd give my right arm to pleasure them but then I'd be racking up frequent flyers points !  LMAO   I believe that every guy like me has a greated wish... to have a lady close to you who shares in your passion for some afternoon delight !   This taking cold showers for 5 years is getting a bit much for me .  I still consider myself a verill and somewhat good looking guy .  I still have a burning desire to please a lady as should most any guy .   And the worst part is that the term "discrete play partner" is what I fit .  I don't need or desire another wife, god knows the one I have has sexually fustrated me to no end .   Yes, we have much in common yet the one thing we should have in common, sex, is not happening now nor should it ever again .  Gawd, how auful and I'm sure that those I find on SA like me are in the same situation .   I have no plans on leaving her ever but some lady friends on the side is now looking better than ever to me !  

Well, I have to finish my morning chores in the barn so I'll be saying...have a great day and I'll be writing more later on this week .  Thanx for reading and if you like what you've read then fire me off a comment .  It makes for some great evening reading to me !  

Your friend,
bigfella44 from Toledo, Ohio

Tonight I was taking messages on another community I belong to when I saw an article that hit a nerve with me .  It was called "Those who Prey on Submissive Newbies .   After reading it, I was struck by it's honest assesment of those who I call a sexual preditor who take advantage of a young woman for their own pleasure, not considering the welfare of the submissive . 

Now while it's true that some subs know what they're getting into in a BDSM relationship, newbies don't usually have the knowledge or expertise to know this guy .  Oh, and he's out there bombing away ads trying to find this young lady hoping he gets lucky, not caring how she feels .  No SSC, no respect towards her, no instructions, and no trust .  Aftercare never crossess his mind and  he'd just as soon put his sub into danger than be a gentleman to her .  It is incumbant upon the submissive to take the proper percautions to protect herself from this skumbag .

The first sign that you nothing to do with Mr. skumbag is his lack of knowledge .  He does'nt have to be a genius to rape a tied and helpless sub, just a skumbag .  So insist on a public meeting with him in a safe place .  If he won't do it...dump him .  Insist on three meetings in public with him, nothing less .  Ask valid questions .  Nost of these guys will eventually slip up and reveal their true desire which is him getting his rocks off and abusing you just because your bound and defenseless .  Tell him "no sessions with him till your secure in the knowledge that you'll be safe at all times .  Mr. skumbag does'nt want to work that hard to rape you and will eventually give up on you . 

I'll be writing more tommrow night on this subject .  Again, I have successfully mentored and trained over 10 young ladies . I write these things down because I love training submissives and I want you all to be safe out there .  All it is is good common sense and some investigative work for you to have a good training experiance !  Continued tommrow evening...

bigfella44 from Toledo, Ohio

TRUST !!!  Yep, I was so locked into my blog last night that the most important element of a successful BDSM relationship was'nt mentioned .  Thanx Ms porrpuss for reminding me to finish my blog properly !  And "Yes Virginia"... sometimes it takes a sharp submissive to correct a Dom !  Gosh, I do love BDSM so !!!

O.K. now, TRUST is the foundation of ALL BDSM relationships and  it is the key to getting to the first session together .  TRUST is EARNED and never given until you've shown her that your intentions are honorable and pure !   Point being, If I have not earned a submissives TRUST, do es anyone really think she'll let me bound, gag, and pleasure her ?  I think not !!!   And that's the way it should be .  As a trainer I never let love into the equasion because I cannot afford to for professional reasons but trust always has to be there, PERIOD !

I hope this has cleared up my blog and put the finishing touches on what I refere to as "a labor of love" for my commitment to be the best trainer I can be for those who trust me to be a complete teacher of the art of submission for them .

And as always, thanx for your comments and for reading my blog .  It's appreciated !!!

bigfella44 from Toledo, Ohio  aka  Sir Big