earlier i was watching "cheaters" and this man's story really struck a cord.

i mean i watch it whenever i have a chance and just be entertained how the cheating spouse/gf/bf/domestic partner can be such an idiot when they do their dirty deed.

but this particular episode really made me sad.

the show begins with its usual introduction of the victim asking "cheaters" to spy on his gf and the "cheaters" crew will then follow and tape the  woman for several days and show the evidence to the victim.  of course in the end, commotion will follow when the victim confronts his cheating partner with the video showing how she was rubbing her butt to her lover's face.  her lover apparently thought she was living with a "brother".

i got sad when it was revealed that the victim had been working hard to pay for the woman's schooling.  he was not rich but he tries hard to give what she needs.  he never maltreated or insulted her during the 5 years they were together.  and when he asked why she did it, she said he was never there for her.  like come on!  the man was paying for her schooling aside from feeding and dressing her and that was the only lame excuse she could come up. 

and it was not like he wasn't coming home everynight... they were living in... he had put a roof on her head and she had the guts to have sex with her lover in the same house when the guy was out.  i could see that she was his life and he gives attention to her - she was just really plain evil.

i thought she was really a fucking bitch when she even had the nerve to say that her new bf had a better paying job than him.  for five years she didn't have to work and i see in the clothes she wore that she had money to even shop.  after all the things he did for her... i could never understand.

i am not a saint and cheating is not an alien thing for me to do.  but i will never cheat on someone who love and did so much for me.  true, the man was really plain and simple and i could imagine that he was just as boring as well... but if he was someone who can bring me security, who can be a strong wall to lean on when it really mattered- someone who will treat me right and that i can trust wholeheartedly- someone who will appreciate me for my totality even if it is less than others... i'd kill for a boyfriend like that.

i am not here to condem people who cheat but what i am trying to say is that a lot of people like me go through this life without knowing what it feels like to truely be loved by someone like the man i mentioned.  everyday i die in envy of couples i see in the streets falling in love right before my eyes wondering if the same will ever happen to me. 

before doing the deed, ask yourself - is it really worth losing the only person who had love you the most?

some simple chat etiquettes to remember in the chatroom....


1. Always follow the rules - you may not agree to one or more rule of the room but remember that the site had deemed it important to established those for specific reasons (mainly to make everyone comfortable and enjoy chatting). just imagine that you are in someone else's house. isn't it stupid and rude that you will be breaking their house rules when you are just a guest?


2. Say hi - when entering the chatroom, always make the effort to say hi to everyone.

3. You should not expect a hello from everyone in the room - Although, it is nice for you to say hi to everyone, don't expect them greeting you back.. some maybe busy in a private chat or maybe doing something else in their real world and needed to get off their desk.

4. Be kind to  newcomers - don't expect newbies to know whatever you already know in the room. don't make a fuss if they are not aware of something and making them look stupid.


5. Conversations - When striking up a conversation to someone, being nice and respectful will give you positive responses. Type their name and your question. Typing the username helps everyone know who you are pertaining to. However, don't expect everyone to immediately drop everything and concentrate just on you. There are a couple of reasons that a person may not respond quickly like only being able to type slowly, lagging etc.

6. Mind your manners! - Being anonymous online does not give you the right to be a idiotic vagabond. always use the words "please", "thank you", "sorry" etc whenever needed.

7. Writing in all capital letters - is perceived as SHOUTING and therefore rude.

9. Avoid words from Mars - Avoid excessive jargons, big words or terms that some people may not readily understand.

8. Ask before PC'ing someone. You don't go and just pull someone to the dance floor without asking, do you?

9. in the SA chatrooms - Posting Links And E-Mails are not allowed.

10. Don't talk in a foreign language in a room full of people who mostly wouldn't understand what you are saying.  That's very disrespectful even in my country.

11. if you feel that someone is being rude to you in the room - the best thing to do is ignore the person. there is an "ignore" option that you can choose in your chat setting. doing so would make the user and user's posts/comments invisible to you like the person does not exist. but that is only at your end. the person can still be seen by others.

12. Politely make your exit. when you already need to go, say goodbye properly especially if you were actively engaged in a conversation in the room at one point or another.

 

for those who know me will tell you that i am so guilty of breaking some of these rules every now and then... just make up for it and shape up the next time.

 

do you want to know how you can prevent to be bombarded by unwanted PC's?  do you also want to post your own suggestions?  Go to the SexyyAds forum, TV/TS/TG/CD  then look for the "IM'S IN THE CHAT ROOM" thread.

 

see you in the chatrooms!

 

there was this anime that i watched before where the female protagonist had chosen the boy who she knew would take care of her, instead of the one she truly loved.  she was an artist but her hands got injured, thus cannot make any masterpieces like she used too.  both boys were artists too and in love with her.  the one she loved was an eccentric and unpredictable sort like her and the one she chose was pretty grounded in terms of values but is dependable.  she knows that this boy would be there for her through thick and thin while the other, although he makes her smile all the time, she is always uncertain of his moods and actions.  it is told in the anime that we don't always end up with the one we want.  sometimes we end up with the one we need.

some are lucky that the person they have in their lives right now is both the one they need and want.  but however, if a woman is presented with two people, should she choose the one her heart wants? or the one she knows she needs in her life?

if she chooses the one she wants, she would be happy and would smile often, they would have a colorful life.. but she will always have the feeling of uncertainty.  if she chooses the one she needs, she would have a secured and peaceful life yet her days would always be predictable without any excitement. 

i would have chosen the one that i want if i was a bit more secure of myself.  however, like the protagonist in the story, i have been hurt too much that i am already emotionally crippled.  i don't want to hurt anymore.  the one that i want is just too free like the wind for us to make it work.

someone had asked me a few days earlier what do i want in life?  it took me a couple of days to contemplate on that.  although i would want financial stability, i know i would want emotional security above all else.  i need something i am sure that could last.   thus that's what i need to find and have in my life. 

 

 

it all depends on your preference or what you are actually looking for a partner. i fancy cd's/tv's (i hear gasps from the crowd) because i have this weird fetish of seeing a man in fem clothes. so prospectively speaking, dating one would really work to my sexual liking.

in terms of ltr, although i only have experienced online relationships (so maybe i don't know what i am talking about) i find them really fun and interesting to be with. whether being friends or lovers, ts's or tv's, i feel comfortable in sharing with them things i would be scared to share with a straight man. i have no doubt that the people i have been close here in SA would be great partners in life.

most people would think of them as dumb sissys or sexually desperate seeking individuals but in truth, most of them are actually intellectual and interesting to talk to.

now it does not mean that when a person is tg, you will be enjoying your time with them as much as i have. there are a lot of tg's there that are just full of shits because of various causes (drugs, alcohol, too much unprescribe hormones, shitty childhood etc). it all boils down to what personality they have on the inside and how capable and mature they are to handle different kinds of relationships. it is also dependent on how open you are to all of these as well (can you walk with your ts partner in the streets without being embarrassed? what are your limitations?). but it is not much different if you are trying to find a straight man or a woman.

it is just in my observation, being tg gives them a bit more edge. a classic example is a cd would most likely be more understanding about a woman's shopping spree and might even enjoy mall hopping with her. a ts would be more understanding of what a man wants and his needs without throwing conditional stuffs that a genetic woman would usually lay on the table.

everything has it's own pros and cons. it is all up to you what you want in a relationship.  me being in a lot of failed heterosexual relationships all my life with lots of drama's in between, i am opening my options to something that will give my old man the heart attack but maybe will lead me to something that can actually make me happy.

mind you... i said "maybe" so i don't know yet to where this will lead to.  i'll keep you all updated.