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I am a Japanese American Male, straight, who likes meeting interested / interesting people (Odd, how those two traits seem to go together).

I am interested in finding people who enjoy coffee, conversation, and learning. Maybe, if things go well we could go hiking, fishing, or browsing bookstores as comfort levels allow.

I like to cook, occasionally clean, watch movies, the usual sorts of things.

Physically, I am a bit overweight but more or less active when time and weather permitting. Black hair, very dark eyes, ten fingers, ten toes, etc.

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Someone interested in learning and doing new things. Someone who wants a friend who is intelligent, loyal, and humorous (OK I try to be humorous, doesn't always work).

Those intrigued may tickle or email as you choose. Thanks for reading and have a Great Day. (^-^)
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Road Kill Blues: My first time in chat
Saturday, October 20, 2007

Yesterday, I was doing the usual catching up with the Forum and working. When I got home, I decided to update all the software on my computer, which at 45 kps can take awhile. One those things you start and then wander off to do housework peeping in from time to time to make sure that you're still connected or that the computer isn't waiting for an answer from you.

By the time all that was done, I had updated Java, Windows, Firefox, Direct X, and the various antivirus / antispam programs and it was fairly late. Somehow, I get to do all the tedious maintenance for the system from updatng the software to dusting out the power supply and processor. Actually, I know why. If I mention RAM and it has nothing to do with a male sheep, my wifes eyes glaze over in a uncomprehending stare. She likes to surf the net, she just doesn't what to know how it works. Sigh. She still catching up with the Iron Age (she spins, weaves, dyes, sews, knits, etc. )

So I decided to see how everything was working and logged on the Sexy Ads and went through the Forum postings as usual. Then I thought, "What the heck" and clicked on Chat.

Whoa! It worked. I got on. Then it gets kind of fuzzy. NaughtyBiNight (who is a really sweet lady from the Forums) saw me and basically held my hand through the initial OMG What have I done moment. Kiwilicious, the moderator, graciously introduced me around to the others in the Chat room. But comments were flying by and I couldn't seem to type as fast as read to respond. OK, It was late and well past when I should have gone to bed, but I finally made it there.  In any case, my thanks to all who were chatting at the time and, particularly NbN and Kiwi, for helping me get some bearings. I suppose I will eventually figure out what most of the stuff on the screen means.

To all of those who haven't gotten more involved in this site, give it a try. I've had more fun in the last two months, than I did in the previous two years just watching everything slide by. It really is up to you.

Later, CV

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Sex, Lies, and Videotape Part Three
Monday, October 1, 2007

"Abandon all hope ye who enter here"

Just kidding. Judging from the response to the last post, I guess I didn't make myself very clear. The point is that hope makes us vulnerable to lies because we really want to believe what the other person is telling us. People who sell products understand this principle very well. The idea is to find out what the customer wants and convince them that the product your selling is what they need.

Because we are raised in a consumer environment, one would think that we would have developed some resistance to such sales pitches. For the most part, we have but then the sheer volume of information being dumped on us sometimes forces our ability to process into drool mode.

As Paracelsus once said, "The dose makes the poison" meaning that anything can be toxic if too much is given. For example, a drink of water is great and healthy, but you can still drown in tank of water. I believe that it also applies to less tangible things like hope. Hope becomes "toxic" when you let it blind you to the faults of others. Not in the sense of judging them, but be aware that they are human and that if they choose to lie, let them know that you would prefer the truth. Any relationship not founded on honest, open communication is doomed to suspicion and distrust.

So why do people lie? Because it works. Why does it work? Because we all cling to the slim hope that someone will fit the image we have in our minds of what they should be. As we try to fit that mold some of us can maintain it for a while, but eventually we all have to be ourselves.


End Rant - Part Three


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Sex, Lies, and Videtape, Part Deux
Sunday, September 30, 2007

If we know that people lie, sometimes even about stupid, inconsequential things, why do we continue to believe them?

A while ago, my son and I were having a discussion and a thought occurred to me. In the legend of Pandora and the box, all the demons of wrath, anger, jealousy, greed, etc. were released into the world when she became curious about the contents of the box. All save one escaped, the final occupant of the box was hope. Hope convinced her that she should also be set free to ease the suffering caused by the others. And so hope also came into the world. In some respects, hope is the worst of those demons. OK, I know we all believe that hope is a very important virtue but it also encourages us to sit when we should move, to act before we know, to bear the unbearable instead of making changes.

In that respect, our hopes of finally finding that perfect mate, job, book keep us doing the same things and expecting a different result. We might think that we control what goes on, but the hope that things will be different "this time" keep us in the same general patterns of behavior.In the area of love, we opens our hearts in the hope that this is the person that will make me (happy, complete, etc.) and find that they are just as hopeful and human as we are. And as hurt.

So, how do we stop this cycle where we either continue to be hopeful and "stupid" (c'mon you know you've said this to yourself a few times) or shut down and just say to hell with it all? Oddly enough, I think Malcolm X, founder of the Black Panthers, had the best idea. When asked about trust, he replied that he trusted everyone. That surprised the questioner, so Malcolm explained, "It's not a question of trust, I trust everyone, the real question is how much I trust them. One guy I might trust 5%. If he proves himself, the percentage increases. But there is no one that I trust 100%." So just open the door a little at a time and don't upset about what you wanted, just accept what you are given and take it from there.


End Rant Part Deux

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Sex, Lies, and Videotape, Part One
Saturday, September 29, 2007

Sorry I kind of liked the title. Mostly I was thinking about why we lie and want it means to cheat.

It seems like we tell lies mainly to protect ourselves and we seem to tell a lot of them. We lie to children to avoid having to explain that the world is not always a nice place, that living things always become dead things eventually, that things don't always stay the same.

We lie to our friends about what we want, what we agree with, what we are to fit in. We lie to customers to make sales sometimes (especially if they're jerks). We lie to employers to hide mistakes (if  we can).

Mosty particularly, men will lie to women to get what they want, if they can. I can understand why women hesitate so much to trust given that the last ten words out of a man's mouth were lies and if they told them the sky was blue they'd have to go out and look to make sure. Sadly, I've known a lot of men like that and I could never really understand why they felt such a need that they would create such a potential for disaster.

Perhaps the worst part of this is that we lie to ourselves. We believe that the end justifies the means or some such nonsense. My problem with that is if a person continues to layer lie upon lie, how will they ever know who they are? How will such a person ever be happy when they have to wonder when some person will spill the beans and their house will come crashing down? Maybe they just like the drama.

That's part of why my earlier blogs were all about learning to perceive. The real world won't lie to you. If you touch a hot stove, you get burned. If you aren't paying attention, something will "remind" you, hopefully, in a nonlethal way. "Yes , dear. There are salties in the water".  CHOMP!

End Rant File Part 1

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Listening for Enhance Awareness (and Crockery Evasion)
Thursday, September 20, 2007

The human ear is capable of hearing down to 20 db (decibels) and up 30,000 db. The ears are capable of detecting a 20 millisecond difference in the time sound arrives in one ear and then the other. With such a range of hearing, how can we not listen?

The answer is hearing and listening are not the same thing. Unless you've been working in a high noise environment for a long time, most people have the same hearing capabilities. Where we differ is in the ability to listen. Hearing happens in the ears, listening happens in the brain. If you are focusing your attention on the game (or on a soap opera, ladies to it too), then you will tend to tune out sounds that aren't relevant to what you are doing. This can be bad, if at that moment of intense concentration, your SO decides its time to have a serious conversation. If you know that the Superbowl is the next day, make a time for such conversations to occur (the day before and, depending on how things went during the party, especially, the day after).

Another thind is that women tend to use both eyes and ears to listen. I have heard people say that they couldn't hear what I was saying because their glasses were off. That is true from current perceptual science. Ever watch a badly dubbed Kung Fu movie? It's hard not to notice that the actors mouth motions do not match the dialogue. Most women do the same thing. They are watching your expressions and mannerisms while you speak. Do the same. Each person will have their own personal set of facial signals, learn what they mean. Then you will have a better idea of what you said to piss her off. Or when to start evasive manuvers to dodge flying pottery.

It's kind of a stupid thing, but some marriage counselors will have each person repeat back what the other said. Think of it as a hardware check. If you can repeat her statement, then she knows that you heard the words, now you can figure out what they mean. Do it in small steps. "Take out the garbage" means remove garbage from premises, right? Implied meaning, a) Do it now; b) Do it today, or c) Do it after the game, fishing, golfing, etc. The correct answer will likely be a) or maybe b). Remember that actions can speak as loudly as words and if you get wrong there will some very loud words (and not all of them will printable).

I hope this helps some at least know when to duck. Later.

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Hi Viper, Just stopping by to say Hi and to wish you a very...

Maybe the Easter Bunny will bring you this.. lol 

Added: Sunday, March 23, 2008 10:39am

Heya Sweet Stuff, how are you?

Hope all is well with you in your part of the globe & Happy Spring!



Added: Wednesday, March 19, 2008 5:34pm

Hi Viper, Just stopping in to say Hi ....  Hope you are doing good..

Added: Tuesday, January 29, 2008 2:06pm

Hey, dude. I've just finished reading your blogs, and have come to the concusion that you are a partial nutjob, which is the Highest form of complement that I give to people with Silly Putty senses of humor...!

I hope all is well with you and yours.

Added: Saturday, January 12, 2008 10:30am

Ok Viper, where have you been? lol...  Haven't heard from you in awhile...  I misses you...   Hope you have a  " MERRY CHRISTMAS "  Get lotsa presents...   But..  ???


Well Have ya??      Big   ***   Huggss ****

Added: Friday, December 14, 2007 1:25pm

Popping by to wish you and your family and friends a lovely Christmas Season

Added: Saturday, December 8, 2007 10:08pm

Hi , cviper   stopping in to say Hi to you,  Haven't see you very much lately, you hiding?  lol...   I know, busy playing video games huh?  Miss seeing you on here...     Take care be sweet !!!

Thanks for the comment on my blog hon...   

Added: Sunday, November 25, 2007 3:44pm

CV, Thanks hon for the cat pic...   Oh BTW  Cat  told me to say Hi to you..  Hope you are having a Great Weekend...

Big  " Huggss " to you..

Added: Saturday, November 10, 2007 3:34pm

Hi viper, Just wanted to say Hi, I've been offline for awhile... Did you miss me?   lol.. I missed talking to you guys..  Sending you HUGGSS!!!


You do like  Wonder Woman don't you?  

Have a great day and stay sweet... 

Added: Thursday, November 8, 2007 10:41pm

Hey, man! Thanks for the big-ups! I'm still here, dealing with the sweetness and the riff-raff...and the stomach ache from the cookies...!

Added: Tuesday, October 23, 2007 11:41pm

Who said that Geometry 101 was a waste of time!

This individual seems to benefitted!

Here's lookin' at Euclid!

Have a good day My Friend!!!

Added: Wednesday, October 17, 2007 10:36am

Cviper, you are truly a man among men.

A Dude among dudes.

And based on some of your blogs, a Complete Nutjob (My favorite term of endearment)!

Rock on, BHM!

Added: Saturday, October 13, 2007 9:41pm


Awwwwwwwwwww CV


Thanks for the Kyle & the kitty!  Nothing like damn good eye candy   Wish I had your own my Comments, but I think  you could give me Mind Candy which is MOST appealing.




Added: Saturday, October 6, 2007 3:51pm

Hi viper, just dropping in. ( ouch). to say Hello!!  And to wish you a Happy Weekend...   Of course I have you a Cat     Not sure if you are a Star Wars Fan???  If not you can   ***  Huggss ***

Oh btw... I'm not a Star Wars fan, sorry, I've never watched the movies... Star Trek ??   My ex watched it so much I got sick of it then, but I've watched a lot of the movies..   I'm a LOTR's Fan...   Loved Those movies !!  Went to the movies and saw first one I think  4 or 5   that's bad...   Loved Aragorn... Very Easy on the eyes...  (YUMMY)        My bedroom is full of LOTR posters... lol.. 

Added: Saturday, October 6, 2007 1:56pm

Two thumbs up for Buddha Cat!





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